Hurting People, Hurt People

The Shooting in Connecticut prompted this post. It is not totally about this but it brings the realization that there are many sick people in this world, who do not know how to deal with their feelings. I for one believe we should not be 100% controlled by our feelings.

When you are sad, depressed, disappointed, lonely, angry and the likes of such emotions, I think we should try to immediately deal with/address the issue diplomatically.  If not, it will harbour into exaggerated feelings/emotions we are not able to control. In plain terms when someone does something wrong to you, don't meditate on it day/night because this means it is bothering you; so tell the person regardless of what their response maybe. This action shifts the burden of anger/resentments and restores your sanity, remember you allow most of the things that happen to you. So stop sitting there hoping the person will be psychic one day and realise what they are doing wrong. This worked for me and it just may work for you. I used to get angry and be quiet about it because I thought it wasn't wise to add to the situation, but a pastor told me once about this and I live by this principle now "No one has the right to take my happiness" so when you upset me I tell you, not necessarily because I want your apologies but it's another way for me releasing myself from the weight of thinking about what you have done.

The reason I am saying all these, is because when you harbour negative feelings or you are disengaged emotionally the result is usually disastrous; because you end up acting on what you give your thought to. The moral of this post is to encourage anyone dealing with emotional hurt/negative experiences that is weighing on their minds thereby shaping their lives through their actions; to deal with the issues now before it makes you who you don't want to become.

Ways of dealing with Negative Emotions

1. Decide to be happy regardless of anything that you face. Happiness is a choice and only a result of our decision not our situations. Think Happy and Be happy because you deserve it!

2. Tell the abuser/person who is making you unhappy what they have done to you without using anger in your approach. How to do this, is to first realise the person is human therefore imperfect and may not necessarily know what they are doing to you. And even when they do know, they are usually acting out on their previous experiences. You can send a text or an email, meetup/call only if you can handle not getting too emotional and losing the point in the process.

3. The other way is never disengage yourself emotionally, that is don't keep it all to yourself. it is dangerous!! Speak to someone experienced/professional or any one that you are convinced can help you, not someone who will fuel the situation by making you more angry.

4. My final point never put the responsibility of your happiness in another person's hands you are sure to get disappointed because we are all human with weaknesses only God has the power to do that, even 'we'  disappoint ourselves sometimes. Like Joyce Meyer preached; God is bound to expose the person's weakness when you put all your trust in them because anyone who can satisfy you all the time can become your idol and God isn't having that.

Also, please remember to treat people as we want to be treated, sow seeds of kindness and you will definitely reap the rewards not necessarily where we are expecting the rewards but it will surely come to you in due time