Wedding!

I did this gorgeous lady's makeup for her bro's wedding this was her look for the engagement. The white wedding look to follow

   

Hurting People, Hurt People

The Shooting in Connecticut prompted this post. It is not totally about this but it brings the realization that there are many sick people in this world, who do not know how to deal with their feelings. I for one believe we should not be 100% controlled by our feelings.

When you are sad, depressed, disappointed, lonely, angry and the likes of such emotions, I think we should try to immediately deal with/address the issue diplomatically.  If not, it will harbour into exaggerated feelings/emotions we are not able to control. In plain terms when someone does something wrong to you, don't meditate on it day/night because this means it is bothering you; so tell the person regardless of what their response maybe. This action shifts the burden of anger/resentments and restores your sanity, remember you allow most of the things that happen to you. So stop sitting there hoping the person will be psychic one day and realise what they are doing wrong. This worked for me and it just may work for you. I used to get angry and be quiet about it because I thought it wasn't wise to add to the situation, but a pastor told me once about this and I live by this principle now "No one has the right to take my happiness" so when you upset me I tell you, not necessarily because I want your apologies but it's another way for me releasing myself from the weight of thinking about what you have done.

The reason I am saying all these, is because when you harbour negative feelings or you are disengaged emotionally the result is usually disastrous; because you end up acting on what you give your thought to. The moral of this post is to encourage anyone dealing with emotional hurt/negative experiences that is weighing on their minds thereby shaping their lives through their actions; to deal with the issues now before it makes you who you don't want to become.

Ways of dealing with Negative Emotions

1. Decide to be happy regardless of anything that you face. Happiness is a choice and only a result of our decision not our situations. Think Happy and Be happy because you deserve it!

2. Tell the abuser/person who is making you unhappy what they have done to you without using anger in your approach. How to do this, is to first realise the person is human therefore imperfect and may not necessarily know what they are doing to you. And even when they do know, they are usually acting out on their previous experiences. You can send a text or an email, meetup/call only if you can handle not getting too emotional and losing the point in the process.

3. The other way is never disengage yourself emotionally, that is don't keep it all to yourself. it is dangerous!! Speak to someone experienced/professional or any one that you are convinced can help you, not someone who will fuel the situation by making you more angry.

4. My final point never put the responsibility of your happiness in another person's hands you are sure to get disappointed because we are all human with weaknesses only God has the power to do that, even 'we'  disappoint ourselves sometimes. Like Joyce Meyer preached; God is bound to expose the person's weakness when you put all your trust in them because anyone who can satisfy you all the time can become your idol and God isn't having that.

Also, please remember to treat people as we want to be treated, sow seeds of kindness and you will definitely reap the rewards not necessarily where we are expecting the rewards but it will surely come to you in due time

Shassy Sunday

Hi Everyone,I hope you are having a lovely sunday!.Today I did my friend Tola's make up. Please check out her blog here: www.mycasita.wordpress.com. We agreed on a natural look but I just had funk it up a bit lol.. Enjoy..xoxo

Before Makeup

Halloween Makeup

 Hi..... my loves..sorry I have been MIA, it is because I have been busy with my new Job Whoop Whoop! This is a testimony by the way! If you are almost giving up on something you are expecting and have been praying for, please don't! God ALWAYS! shows up..Anyways... I did the makeup for these 3 beautiful girls by a very talented photographer Bigg Ayo check out his Facebook page http://www.facebook.com/BiggAyo. A very big thank you to all these people because this shoot was done in the COLD! 

DIY Fancy Earings

What you need
1. Hoop Earrings
2. Fancy Charms with double side holes (shambala beads)
3. Bead Spacers (optional)
4. Spikes (optional)

Smokey Pooj!

Some of my drawings

I started drawing when I was little, but I don't draw as much anymore.. :( (I miss my QC teacher Mr Obasa LOL) These are few of my drawings! Most of them are inspired from other artists..

Pin Up Simple look

Pink Dazzle Saturday

With Brown Nude Lips

Vamped Lips

Eni baby

This look isn't for everyday or going out..it is just a play on colours

My Lovely bday girl :)

Naturally bronzed

Love versus NEED

So I went to church today and the preacher briefly mentioned a point I seem to have heard in different perspective. Marrying someone that NEEDS you can be disastrous! This seems to be a form of debate to a lot of people because they feel they should be needed in their relationships. which is true to an extent.

My main purpose of this post is to show that it is unhealthy to marry someone because you need them or they need you; even in relationships/friendships. Usually anyone can fulfil your need because it carries a broad category but not everyone can genuinely be in love with you. For instance any sugar daddy/mummy (broad category) can provide for you but not satisfy you in terms of Love. The kind of NEED I am talking about is for instance a guy sees a girl from a wealthy background and decides he has to marry her because he thinks he will be sorted through her connections. Or a girl prays/fast/pretends or whatever she can do to get a rich guy to marry her because she doesn't want to be poor and therefore believes the guy will change her situation. There are also other cases where this NEED comes into place, where a guy/girl marries due to the need of pleasing society or getting pressure off their back. To some there is no issue in this but you must realise that the need is most often met and then you are faced with the reality of the person's character after they have fulfilled the need. Also you can be at the manipulative mercy of the person you need (unhealthy). I believe this may be the reason for the increase divorce rates because, you don't necessarily need what has been filled after it has been filled. Also your needs change as you mature, for this reason I believe you should marry your friend, they are there through thick and thin and often grow with you. You don't necessarily need your true friend for any reason but they just get you! and you genuinely love them not for any material reasons or validation.

Ups and Down of Friendship

Friendship means different things to each person; which I believe is the reason why you shouldn't expect your friend(s) to be the same as you. Often times we fight with people because they have done us wrong. What is termed "wrong" I have noticed it is usually you expecting your friend's behaviour to be a certain way (sometimes that you be controlling/judgemental/or your friend isn't just logical) as you will often say he/she should know better. I believe we should appreciate the individuality in friendship and stop making our friends; with personalities not as strong as ours conform to our expectation. Don't get me wrong, people do bad things that disqualifies them as friends. But we should also have a sense of responsibility in understanding our friends are not exactly same as us, which doesn't make you better or lower than anyone. So choose your battles and don't fight at every misunderstanding! everyone has a right to their opinion and you have a right not to be mad at that!

xoxo

Few of my looks :D

Purple fling with Funmii :)

Ifedizzle

Makeup

soft pretty look